Is this a sex party?

No. It is rather a space created with the intention to discover sensual oily touch, not to try to find a sexual encounter. No worries about sexual feelings. Arousal happens, we just have to handle it consciously. We will work around that with consent agreements made by the group. It’s not the facilitators who tell you what to do, it’s you who decide based upon a group consent what is okay in that moment. Kathi and Vicky are by your side to observe the space and support it in the way you feel consensual with. 

We are self responsible. We trust in each other’s respect of boundaries, thoughtfulness and empathy. We learn all together how to co-create a safer-space and establish an atmosphere of open communication and generosity. We will be dealing with mistakes and create an environment in which to learn from each other.

Is this a sex-positive space?

Yes. We talk about sex, we name sexual actions and we allow sexual energy in consensual ways (verbalized or non-verbal). YOU are defining what is sexual to you and you are the one who knows what you want and what you don’t. Sexual also means “just” the fantasy you are exploring all by yourself without anyone else noticing that you are in a very aroused state. It is okay to moan, to sigh, to whisper something to yourself. Or maybe you don’t want anything sexual at all, that is as welcome. Let’s allow this and not shame ourselves and others for being (a-)sexual humans. This event is a safer space that we all co-create.

Co-creating safer spaces

As this is a space for all gender identities: let’s make it a safe and pleasurable experience for EVERY BODY. Every body is welcome and there is no gender selection made for „gender equality“, because we enact equality by the way we treat one another. So, if there are a lot of people who have a gender that is not sexually interesting to you, it should not affect the way you treat them. If there are some people that you find sexually interesting, it should not change your behaviour. Make your intention clear for yourself and take out sexual desires in the oil bath which are not transparent. Meaning: if you didn’t ask for clear consent, don’t touch anyone with a sexual intention. 

Sexual Health is important, so if you have had risky sexual contact and no STI-screening since then, please don’t come to prevent spreading infections.

About nudity

You can always put on and take off your clothes. Clothing is optional in the second part (oil bath). Nobody should feel pressured to be nude. Clothing is anyhow a way of differencing. We are all different in our bodies and all beautiful, there is no need to be ashamed - nevertheless, shame as a feeling will not be denied and if you don’t feel like undressing, don’t feel pressured to do so. Maybe you want to choose some comfy, light clothing that can be oily (like a bikini) and you can bring extra clothes in case your mood shifts - the most essential thing you can do is to take care of your own well-being. From there, we can take it to an oil-pouring, slippery, sensual ritual in which we embrace our own bodies, share the love we feel for ourselves with others and receive warm showers of worship in a gentle, soft, and cherishing way.

About “queer” events

Mary Nadini Gang writes: “Queer is not merely another identity that can be tacked onto a list of neat social categories, nor the quantitative sum of our identities. Rather, it is the qualitative position of opposition to presentations of stability (...). Queer is the abnormal, the strange, the dangerous. Queer involves our sexuality and our gender, but so much more. It is our desire and fantasies and more still. Queer is the cohesion of everything in conflict with the heterosexual capitalist world. Queer is a total rejection of the regime of the Normal.” https://theanarchistlibrary.org/library/mary-nardini-gang-toward-the-queerest-insurrection 

Please make sure that you don’t shame people’s gender identities based on their looks and take good self-care or reach out to us if you struggle with discomfort in the space. We can find a way together to unite all gender identities in a safer space inclusive to all bodies regardless of gender and sexual orientation. Let’s be strange together!

Breathwork & cacao

We will use a gentle guided breathwork, followed by a shared cacao in order to land in the space and attune to one another, before stepping into the experience of Liquid Love. These tools help us to connect with ourselves, our own desires, fears and emotions, creating intentionality and awareness before we engage with one another.

As we will be doing a short period or slightly more intense breathing, I would like to draw your attention to some safety contradictions. If any of these apply to you, please either let us know in advance if you would like to join the session, or check in with your doctor if it would be safe for you.

Contraindications for breathwork:

• Pregnancy(at any stage)

• Severe PTSD or trauma

• Actively using recreational drugs

• Taking any medication that alters brain chemistry like anti-anxiety, anti-depressant, ADD, OCD medications etc. - Detached Retina

• Glaucoma

• Kidney disease

• High Blood Pressure

• Cardiovascular disease, including angina, previous heart attack or stroke

• Diagnosis of aneurysm of any kind

• Uncontrolled thyroid conditions

• Diabetes(any type)

• Severe Asthma - for mild to moderate asthma, we can discuss but you must bring your inhaler to the session - Epilepsy

• History of seizures

• Prior diagnosis of bipolar disorder, schizophrenia or previous psychiatric condition

• Severe psychosomatic disorders

• Recent surgery, stitches or injury

• Hospitalisation for any psychiatric condition or emotional crisis within the last 10 years

 Accessibility

There is an elevator and it is wheel-chair accessible (but not easily). Please get in touch with us for accessibility info. 

The event will happen mainly in English, translation support can happen in German, French, Spanish, Portuguese, and Dutch.

Stay in touch

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Please bring all of you, just the way you are in that moment, it will all be warmly welcomed! We are very much looking forward to breathing and connecting with you and to pour oil over your beautiful bodies!

Love,

💜 Vicky & Kathi